Redesign Your Internal Language, Experiences, Perceptions, Beliefs, Values, and Attitudes

Once I did a seminar for the family of an industrialist at  Hotel  Galaxy,  Gurgaon.  After  the  seminar,  I shared my observations regarding their employees. I said that there was a lot of respect in the eyes of every family member for the people working for them. The Chairman of  the  company  replied  immediately,  “If  you  want  to grow, you have to give respect.” This is the secret of their

success.

Many a times our self condemnation stops us from taking actions. Sometimes our technique of asking questions creates hindrances in our life. We all know that the quality of life is nothing but the quality of questions that we ask to ourselves and others. The message of communication should teach us how to communicate with others. If you and I want to communicate internally with a positive frame of mind, then we must know the technique of filtering our negative perceptions. Then only can we communicate with ourselves. We know that we need to communicate with ourselves first and then we communicate with the world.

Right hand little finger—Let us position 100% irrelevant facts on the little finger of the right hand. These are those facts that do not exist in reality, but we have accepted them as a matter of fact and our life is governed by them. It means we are governed by our self created world of limitations and constraints. These limitations stop us from moving forward and, furthermore, sabotage our success. Now whenever a situation comes, then concentrate it on the little finger of your left hand. If your perception is not filtered properly, then it will not allow you to move forward, rather it will create an avenue to

move away. Unless we stop generalising, deleting, and distorting the meaning of an event, any happening won’t be providing a new possibility. You can refer to the following references:

We are governed by our self created world of limitations and constraints.

What is the final result in case you do not do? What stops you from taking action?

Really

100%

When, how, where at which point of time?

                                       Who among the group? Which place?

In regard of what?

Left Hand

Group/Person	Doing
Specific

I must not do

I cannot do

100% bluff statement

Too Much

Right Hand

100% bluff—Sometimes we say that kids today have no manners. By making this statement, we create an emotion which is negative. With the sound of this statement, our physiology goes down. Our behaviour gets affected. At this moment, ask yourself by raising little finger of left hand—is it really 100%? An answer from your subconscious will come, i.e., “No”. It is not 100%, rather we have made it 100% as a result of our own perceptions.