As I have mentioned earlier, our incredible human machine has two types of muscles—voluntary muscles and non-voluntary muscles. While communicating, if we notice and observe the non-voluntary muscles carefully, then we can find out whether a person is lying or not. Non-voluntary muscles are those muscles which we cannot move as per our desires and commands. These have their own patterns as they are controlled by the nervous system. Our brain moves these muscles according to a preset programme installed by the Almighty. This cannot be changed knowingly to deceive any individual. These muscles have a set pattern and behave according to that. These muscles are found in eye pupils or eye balls
or eyelids and heart beat, etc.
Eye
Pattern and Scientific Use of Eye Movements
The authentic and the set pattern of
eyes is that moving the eyes in the right direction will always construct an
image which does not exist. When the eyes are in the right direction, picture
of a constructed situation or a constructed event is taken. Similarly, when the
eyes are in the right direction, parallel to the ears, then future sound is
constructed. If the eyes are moved down in the right direction then that
represents feelings.
In the similar fashion,
if the eyes move on the top towards left, it represents the picture of past
happenings. If the eyes are moved left, parallel to the left ear, then the past
sound would be recalled and if the eyes are moved on extreme left down, it
means the person is lost in his own world. Many a times, listeners don’t ask
anything
not
because they understand everything but because they do not listen to anything.
In most cases, it is found that the person either speaks or plans to speak.
These type of people, always keep their eyes down in the left direction while
listening.
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Now is it clear how can we catch liars? Suppose
somebody refers to something of the past but his eyes move in the right
direction, then this indicates that the person is lying, since there is no
congruency. Even lie detector works on non-voluntary muscles.
But in order to be a master user you need a lot of
practice. You need to be trained in asking questions and in using the
sub-modalities of the questions. Suppose you go to a property consultant and
say you want to buy a particular property. The consultant tells you that it has
been sold to another party, but he can consider giving you
the
property. Now to find out if he is lying, ask—Where did that party come from?
What is his name? How big a house he wanted? If, while answering the questions,
the property consultant moves his eyes up towards right, it means that he is
creating pressure on you by telling lies. Now you should plan how you can produce
counter pressure and grab the deal by bargaining better!
Again, imagine that you are a sales manager and your
sales team said that they have visited 20 places. Ask them about the
destinations, time of reaching, matter of talk and modality of talk. Now again,
in this case, look at the team leaders and team members. In case they move
their eyes towards right, it means they are lying. They have not visited the
places, rather they have all ganged up to fool the company.
Again, if you are an HR head and in an interview if
a candidate says that he was getting a particular salary package, then
immediately look into his eyes. In case his eyes move towards right it means
that the amount he was drawing is not same as he has mentioned.
The point is, if the speaker’s words are not
commensurate with the non-voluntary muscles, then it means the person is lying.
Sometimes people are in the habit of telling lies without any benefit. We have
to be very careful of these kind of people. Even if they don’t harm directly, many
a times they waste our time. They are time wasters. If a person says something
of past by moving his eyes towards left then that means he is speaking truth.
Again, if you give somebody a direction to do something new and he takes his
eyes to the left and says that he will
go
there, understand that he will certainly not go there. Here you have to change
the sub-modalities to show him the future picture, make him hear the future
sound and you have to make him feel also so that he is convinced and is going
to be benefitted.
We are always guided and
directed not by our conscious mind but by our subconscious mind.
If you scold your child and ask him whether he was
with his friend or not and your child repeatedly says no, he was not there but
his eyes are in the left direction down, it means your child is talking to
himself. At this point the child should not be asked anything because he is not
listening to you and has gone in the past pattern. Here you have to be very
careful if you really want to communicate your message to him. Many parents
speak loudly to make their children understand. Remember, if your child is in
internal communication pattern, then you should not tell him anything, as it
will be a complete waste. You should first change his modality and then you
should give him any command.
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