Right hand middle finger—

                                                     

Now let us move the middle finger of the right hand. Whenever you tell yourself to do something then ask yourself, “When? How? Where?” This will provide you direction, pace, extent, and destination. Brain does not understand unless we make a specific command. Unless it is clear, brain will not consider it. So whenever you feel depressed, ask yourself why you feel depressed. In my seminars, especially in BPOs, I always ask, “How do you get depressed?” The answer I get is, “Pressure”. I simply ask, “Have you seen the life of a student of class 3 or 4? They too have a lot of pressure, such as peer pressure, pressure of the teachers, parents expectations, etc. Then they have fear of not performing, fear of rejection from siblings, fear of being insulted in the society by the teachers, parents, and friends. They have to manage so many things and so many persons at the 

same time. It is all about how you limit yourself. It is how you create avenues for yourself to be depressed. In BPOs especially, “stressed up” has become a fancy word. People love to be called “stressed up”. Once I was conducting a seminar for Tech Mahindra company and it was a challenge to convince very senior level people that all stress in our lives is the result of our false assumptions. We have developed the culture of stress. In this situation, just ask yourself how you have become stressed up. You will find a particular pattern in your behaviour like shoulder down, eyes down, etc. Again if you ask yourself that you want to take a new project, then immediately ask, “How? When? Where?” This will provoke you to take massive actions for your project which will enhance your thinking and provide an opportunity to excel. Mere thinking and dreaming cannot shape your destiny and cannot do anything for you. Success is always buried next to frustration. The fire resembles the problem: the problem which might kill persons, the problem which can physically harm. If you want to improve your designation, visualise that you have attained that designation by taking your eye in the right direction.