Fatigue is a state of mind.

According to Shiv Sutra our brain is divided into two parts, right and left. The right part constructs and left part maintains. Right brain imagines and left brain provides reference points. Reference is like a support system. Similarly, moving the eyes in the right direction focus something which does not exist and moving them towards the left shifts our focus to something which does exist. The communication system of Ratan Tata is clear. He generally looks ahead with his eyes towards the right direction. Look at him, he looks pretty young. He does not have time to think about anything which is not productive. Ratan Tata is also known for his vision. We must know how to change ourself with experiences and perceptions for breaking our limiting behavior.

Let’s Understand Our Communication

Patterns and Nervous System Scientifically

Chance favors the prepared mind.

Louis Pasteur

 Muscles

Our bones and joints are covered with muscles. Muscles form 50% of our body weight and collectively. Muscles are of two work types:

•Voluntary 

• Non-voluntary

(i)                 The voluntary muscles move as per our desires and our commands. They wait for commands from the nervous system. These muscles are found in hands, legs, stomach, head, mouth, cheeks, etc.

(ii)              Non-voluntary muscles are found in eye balls, 

   pupils, blood veins, food pipe and heart.

We will discuss about non-voluntary muscles in detail  in the chapter Catch the Liars”.

Our eye has a retina. The retina is like a reel on which 

the picture is taken. The lens in the eyes takes the picture. 

This picture is always opposite. After the picture has been 

taken, it is the job of the nervous system to develop this 

picture and give meaning to it. This is the place where e can change the meaning and frame according to our desire. It is true that most of the people limit themselves by generalising the event, sometimes they never allow lenses to take the picture, they distort the meaning, and 

finally they delete it from the reel. By doing this, they reject an opportunity.

In the above generalisation, distortion, and deletion are done on the basis of the filters that we create in our nervous system. These filters are our own language, our own sounds, our own past experiences, and our own perceptions about events and happenings, our past belief about the pattern of happenings, and our past attitudes about events. 

An event has no meaning except the meaning we give
to it. If we use our filters in a better way, then we can reach
the zenith without any doubt. In fact, our filters create the
internal presentation of the event and hence our state is
created, subsequently physiology takes place. Our world is
framed and then our internal and external world is created.
This world helps us create our behavior.

In our life we can do everything if we follow the scientific pattern of thinking and doing. We must know how to use our brain cells. We don’t get tired because we are actually tired but because of our pattern of thinking. It is because of the pattern of filters that we use.

 The pattern of the state makes the pattern of the world. And subsequently the pattern of the world creates our behavior Hope is the first thing to take some sort of action I do my corporate programmes for 14 to 15 hours continuously and nobody gets tired. In one of my open 

house programme “Discover the Power Within” at Hotel Taj
Mansingh, New Delhi, a very enthusiastic participant came up to me the next day and said, “I danced the whole day.
I attended the whole programme. I did firewalk almost18 feet long and then went to office in the night for work after 15 hours of programme.” He went back home and the next day he came on time and rocked the seminar with a lot of ecstasy and playfulness again.

KNOW YOUR MIND

KNOW YOUR MIND

Neuro Communication Model

 Value is not intrinsic; it is not in things. It is within us; it is the way in which man reacts to the conditions of his environment.

                                                            Ludwig von Mises

In this chapter I will explain: How does our nervous system work? How are the nerves esponsible for our behaviour? How is our behaviour shaped as per the meaning that we give to an event? An event has no meaning except the meaning that we give to it.By changing the picture of the event, by changing the sound of the event, by changing the feeling of the event we can change the entire meaning of the event. Framing of an event means we provide a guide to the event, it provides a limit. Whatever we see, feel, and hear is anchored in our mind and body. Whenever we wish to see, listen, and feel to change our old patterns we can always get the new patterns. It would be very easy in case you are in a peak state. For example, if you met with an accident and you narrowly escaped, you will always remember that spot whenever you pass through that site. It will get anchored in your mind, body, and emotions very intensively. 

Our entire communication system is based on our state of mind and reflection of brain cells. No event has any meaning except the meaningthat we give to it. In my firewalk seminar I always say that firewalk has no meaning except what we give to it actually. For some people it can be fun. Even in some parts of India walking on fire is done as a religious ritual. Once I was doing my firewalk seminar at hatshilla, near Jamshedpur, for the executives of Hindustan Copper Limited and on the same day it was done as a religious ritual too. Next day in all the leading newspapers both the news were covered. But the meanings to both were entirely different. Both the news came also on the television channels, but meanings given to them here also were altogether different. People, before attending the seminar, had a different thought process and vision towards their goals. After the seminar their approach towards their goals becomes totally different. This was absolutely corporate related and fire had actually become the anchor for shaping their future behaviour and a source of power to meet the high level of commitments. Neurology is like a juke box. Everything gets planted annd embedded in our brain cells. Even if we have anchored something wrong in our brain, then we can reprogramme it by creating an internal talk and creating a new presentation of the event in acompletely new frame. If the picture is changed, sound is changed, the feeling will automatically change.]

Passionate Thinking, Passionate Listening, And Passionate Doing

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Winston Churchill         

In all my seminars the first question that I ask is—how does change happen? By listening or by thinking or by doing? Most of the participants say by doing. Let us make one thing clear—just by taking actions or making efforts we cannot achieve the target. It will be like arocking chair. We will act but we will remain in the same place. If listening and thinking are not involved, then making all kinds of efforts will not
fetch any results. There are many people who think a lot but never take any action.

I have met many people in large cities who were aware of happenings of Russian and Chinese economies but were not aware of the basic needs of their own families. How does it help an individual and a country if this discussion has no impact on their decisions? Unless you keep on thinking, listening, and congruently taking actions, nothing will change. For shaping your destiny you have to think, listen,

and act congruently. Many people spend years in thinking and do not take any actions. Even in the corporate world many companies waste a lot of time and money on meetings but they fail to translate their efforts into reality. In one of my seminars, a very senior executive came up to me and asked, “Can you get me a job where there will be some work to do rather than just attending meetings?” Such people really want to work rather than waste time in gossiping in the name of meeting.

Now the question is, who will decide what is opportunity? My father used to say that every individual gets a chance at least once to show his strengths. An opportunity is a chance unless it is converted into luck by some kind of strategy. It never happens unless we start with massive action. At times we have to eliminate something to achieve and shape our destiny. Just look at this story:

Once upon a time a very famous king told a sculptor that he wanted to see how an idol was made from stone. The sculptor started cutting stone from all sides right in front of the king. After some time the king asked him why was he  destroying  the  stone? “I  had  asked  you  to  construct an idol and not to destroy the entire piece of stone”, he said. The sculptor replied politely, “Sir, I do not make idols. A beautiful idol is hidden inside this piece of stone. I just have to eliminate
the unwanted part of the stone and subsequently the idol will emerge.”

This is relevant to our lives also. We also have to weed out our negative
thoughts to emerge as a better person. Acting without thinking does not
take us to a respectable place. We all know of Michael Jackson, once a millionaire, who died under suspicious circumstances and did not have sufficient money to even support himself during the last days of his life. His health was failing because of his crippling addiction to pain killers and alcohol. Similarly, Mike Tyson, who was once the richest boxer, has no legendary lifestyle now. Many film stars have to resort to substance
abuse just because their thinking and acting has no
congruency. Once I saw on History Channel that John
Belusi had to borrow money from his manager to buy
drugs. He was a very successful person who died at a
very early age because of drugs. I know many people
who take drugs not to enjoy the pleasure, but to avoid
pain and lose consciousness.History is not a slave of any dynasty. History is always  considered a respect for an individual. History is created by winning a battle, be it in the battlefield or in any aspect of life. A great thinker, listener, and
doer always creates history. We all know about the great leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, J. F. Kennedy,Karl Marx, Mother Teresa,
Abraham Lincoln, Maharana Pratap, etc. All these persons created history by performing great
acts. If you ever get a chance to
visit Haldi Ghati in Rajasthan, the
statues of Chetak and Maharana Pratap make it clear that history is not made just by winning the battle, history can also be created by making an honest attempt to win the battle.

MEANING OF LIFE

MEANING OF LIFE

Discover Your Goals 

Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human.Being living humanely is like. She is a person who understands, values, and develops her body, finding it
beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and finds ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of old that is
                                    still useful and discarding what is not.

Virginia Satir

He was travelling in his Mercedes Benz fromChandigarh to New Delhi. It was drizzling and there was a light wind blowing. The trees on both sides of the road seemed to be dancing with the wind. Just a day earlier this man had given a seminar for British Council in Taj Hotel, Chandigarh. While the car was moving, he started recalling the event in which everybody shook hands with him, considering themselves lucky and expressed their joy at meeting this man personally, whom they had only seen on television earlier. How can an average person, with a cost accounting degree, having no background in psychology make a successful mark on human psychology?

How can he make every participant walk on a burning bed of fire? How can a man, who ten years ago had no money to have food, to buy clothes, who was actually fighting for survival, now help the top companies to survive in tough times? For somebody who completed his education by borrowing money from his friends, no w to become a powerhouse for executives and CEOs of top business houses was a great achievement. Success does not entirely mean what I have done. This is not the benchmark of success.Success means different things to different people, but everyone has a dream. Some follow their dreams strongly by working towards them and some just dream and don’t take any action. I always remember what the former President of India, Dr A. P. J. Abdul Kalam, had said, “Dreams are not which are seen in sleep, rather dreams are those which don’t allow you to sleep.” Life always gives you what you look for. There is a way to look at a dream and that is what exactly I teach in my seminars. I will share with you all the tools through which every individual can achieve his goals and can reach the zenith. To be a leader it is not necessary to be born with a silver spoon in your mouth. If an individual changes his understanding of the external world with the internal thought process, then success is bound to come. One has to have an attitude to bear the pain happily and counter the challenges of life at every stage.

Today, anyone in blue jeans can form a company. We have so many shining stars on the business horizon, e.g. Bill Gates, L. N. Mittal, and Sunil Mittal, to name a few. Cosmos has same impact on everyone. We need to understand the language of the cosmic world. Life always gives us what we desire. The day you think that you have not seen any beggar for a long time, the very next moment you will find a beggar around you. It is as if you asked the cosmic power to show you beggars. This is also known as reticular activity system. When you do an activity you find everyone is doing the same thing. Suppose you are constructing your house, you realise that many houses are being constructed at the same time. Cosmos does not discriminate whether you are from India, China, USA, Russia, or any other country or city.

UNDERSTANDING THE WORKING PATTERN OF AN INDIVIDUAL

If we look into the corporate world today, then we experience that the biggest challenge is to place the right person at the right place at the right time. If you see the information technology world, it is visible that the manpower turnover rate is killing. It is the greatest challenge to the manager to understand and manage the people at work. It is very challenging to train them in uni-direction.

Once, I was conducting my firewalk seminar. In that the director of the company, Sanjay Bhatia, narrated a motivational story. He explained that a company is like a boat and all of them are sailing in it. Now the boat will go ahead only when everybody rows in the same direction and everybody puts the energy that they have instead of watching who is putting what kind of energy and in what ratio.This story was highly motivational, but do you think everybody took it in the same spirit? No. There were many corporate executives from all parts of the country. 

Everybody would have taken this story according to their own paradigm. If you refer to Pareto’s analysis, who is an Italian Economist, you will find that 20% of the employees contribute to 80% of complaints and dissatisfactionIf we focus on 20% of the employees, 80% of the problems will be solved. Employee related problems can be tackled and eliminated if we understand the pattern of working of every individual. If any individual is posted at the right place or the place of his own interest, there will be job enrichment and enhancement in efficiency. We must know that the most important step is to identify an individual. Even the father of scientific management F. W. Taylor clearly says that we must identify the efficient workers and inefficient workers. Identification of employees leads to identification of human behaviour. Therefore, it is our primary duty to identify the workers and subsequently provide the work. Even parents must understand what their children deserve. Sometimes parents become unreasonable with their children.

Every individual has different patterns of life. Even in my seminars, when I crack jokes, some people laugh like anything, while some don’t. Earlier, I used to be a visiting professor at the Institute of Chartered Accountants of India. There also if I used to explain any concept, then some people would be very happy while some would not. Several times I used to think why there was a differentresponse for the same action. It is because every individual has different patterns of life.

Let us understand the different behaviours of an individual.

1. Process-oriented

Some people are process-oriented. They go step by step. They believe in systems. They believe in mechanisms. They believe in orientation. I am not saying if this is good or bad. I am trying to make you focus on the nature of the person. Accounts people are process oriented. Sales people are goal oriented. Law firms believe that no work is complete unless the paper work is done. Human behaviour varies from individual to individual. Let me tell you about one person who believed in process and function and he gave the world a complete new mode of transportation.

A twelve-year-old boy was going along with his farmer father. He saw a train. He was so inquisitive that he went to the driver of the train and enquired how the train worked. His process based mind thought that if a train could work on a track, then why could not a chariot move on a plain road with a machine and not by horses. This process was settled in his brain. When his father used to think about seeds, soil, fertilisers, his mind used to work on the instrument which could be used in ploughing the fields. He worked in Detroit to repair various machines but there too he used to visualise the process of making a machine cart. At the age of 25 he got married on the condition that his first love would be the process of making a car only and nothing else. Later on, this person used towork in Edison Illuminating Company. He used to work day and night on the process of car manufacturing. On 4 June, 1896 this process based man brought the first car on the road and he was none other than Henry Ford. And today the whole world respects and admires the incredible mechanism produced by Henry Ford’s brain. These kind of people

must be put at functional work.

Techniques to Eliminate Phobias

1. Develop the alternative demand-oriented perspective

We should always take that word which has a meaning for the buyer. Instead of knowing the product, we should know the value and vision of the product. Eastman Kodak always says, “We preserve beautiful memories.” Revlon is a cosmetics manufacturing company, but they reframe “We are Hope in a Drug Store”.

2. Know exactly what you want

While reframing, we should be very specific. What is our deepest desire and why we must do it? According to ourvision, we go ahead for context reframing. But, destination will only make pathways. In ancient history, the son of a king called Siddhartha visualised his vision above death and sufferings from illness. Then he got the

power to leave his kingdom and subsequently he became the great sage Gautama Buddha. He touched and moved the life of thousands of people in India, China, Burma, Sri Lanka, Tibet, etc. He reframed that the secret of a happy life is not expecting anything from anyone.

3. What pattern you need to change

Focus on the pattern needs to be left and now create an empowering belief to enjoy the changing pattern. This cannot be achieved by one time thought, rather you have to practise it again and again.

4. Condition yourself

To reap the benefits, you and I have to practise it again and again. Then only it will be conditioned. Brain never understands any command unless it is experienced. In my firewalk, I always invest time to condition my participants. Once the masses are conditioned, brain takes action. I told them that the firewalk is a metaphor to their changed physiology. It breaks mental impossibility and will make you experience the fear. The only way to overcome fear is to experience it. That is exactly what firewalk does. Firewalk conditions the state and behaviour which subsequently produces results inspite of terrible fear. Youshould challenge fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear ofnot being good enough, fear of losing positions, fear of not being loved enough, etc. You should break the self-limiting belief. I believe that you can be anything what you wish, such as a businessman, millionaire, etc.

Overcome any kind of unrealistic relationship, which has got no existence today such as a broken relationship. We all had some of our unpleasant experiences in the past and the impact of that past limits us from living a great and playful life.

I condition through firewalk to change the internal representation about any event through internal communication. We all know that even in Mahabharata, Lord Krishna had asked Yudhishtra to reframe the situation of killing Ashwathama, the elephant, for getting an opportunity to kill the great Dronacharya.