Always Honour Your Commitment Absolutely

Always Honour Your Commitment Absolutely

 

We must work with high intensity and with a high commitment level. We can visualise our goal with proper direction and proper mindset. Our neurology has certain patterns. If these patterns are followed, then success is guaranteed. If we can provide information to our brain the way it wants, then we can see it, listen to the sound of it, and can feel it also. But for this, only
visualisation is not good enough. We have to take massive action also. Our intensity to produce the fire inside will make the entire world move around us.
If an individual makes a very high level of commitment to serve and to render high quality service, then he
is bound to be successful in every situation. Once I was in California for attending the firewalk seminar of Tony
Robbins. Around 12 o’ clock at night I went to the beach at Long beach, Los Angeles. When I was passing through the city centre while coming back, I saw that many strip
clubs and night clubs were open. I was able to figure out many scantily dressed girls standing along the roadside,
but nothing of that kind attracted me at the moment. I felt the importance of my wife who was alone at home in
India. In the process of the seminar, Tony had reinforced to connect with people who are deeply connected with their life. The significance of my wife Manju in my life
was so deep and intense that while my eyes were on the girls for a moment, my heart was with my wife. I felt the
importance of her suggestions which I used to ignore earlier. I notice that we seek suggestions from everywhere all over the world, but we ignore them when they come from

our near ones, specially our spouse. When I was in the trans state of mind, I realised that tears were rolling
down my cheeks and my voice was quivering. I realised that my success without her would be useless. I thank
Tony for uncovering the feeling which was deep inside me, but I was not aware of it. I would like to narrate another instance. I read a wonderful interview in Hindustan Times which was about Bikki Oberoi, son of the legendary Rai Bahadur Mohan Singh Oberoi. At the age of almost 78, he was so much energetic and committed. Once he was reading a complaint of a guest, who was from Hong Kong. He wrote a letter to the guest that he could stay for four days free of cost at any of the Oberoi Group of hotels in the world as per his
own convenience.

 The guest was taken care of and
felt that he was understood by the Chairman of the
Oberoi Group. He was given a true honour. Not
only this, the guest also got a refund of the entire
bill amount. There is a rule at Oberoi that all the
serious letters of complaint are forwarded to the
Chairman. Here commitment to serve the guest is visible.
The term, the “Guest is always right,” is highly practised
in the Oberoi group of hotels throughout the world.
Here you can feel that commitment is very strong. Vicky
Oberoi feels that there is no point in being arrogant at
any point of time to anybody if you are in the hospitality
industry. He looks forward to deliver what he has
committed to deliver. He believes in speaking silver and
delivering diamond. Arrogance in hospitality industry
doesn’t work.

Visualize What You Want To Be

Visualize What You Want To Be 

The state of your life is nothing more than a
          reflection of your state of mind.

                                                     Wayne Dyer

The key is to visualise the destination and not the path. Every day just visualise what you want to be and visualise that you have already achieved it. Your visualisation helps to clarify your deeds and needs. Once I was conducting a seminar in Haryana for Life Insurance Corporation of India. One of the participants, a very successful insurance consultant, came on the dais and shared a veryunique incident with everyone.

He said that one of his friends wanted to buy a car of a particular brand, design, and look, but he did not have money to buy it. He always visualised that he had purchased the car. But in reality he had not bought it. After some years he earned a lot of money and became a member of the LIC Gold Club. Then, when he went to
buy a car at the same showroom, the owner suggested him to buy the old model of the same car with huge discounts. Guess what happened? This was the same car that he used to visualise. It was not sold to any body. It was waiting for him. If you recall the reality of your belongings, you will always feel that whatever you have was made for you. How quickly you can get it depends upon how intense your visualisation is.

Passionate Thinking, Passionate Listening, And Passionate Doing

Passionate Thinking, Passionate Listening, And Passionate Doing

In all my seminars the first question that I ask is—how does change happen? By listening or by thinking or by doing? Most of the participants say by doing. Let us make one thing clear—just by taking actions or making efforts we cannot achieve the target. It will be like arocking chair. We will act but we will remain in the same place. If listening and thinking are not involved, then making all kinds of efforts will not
fetch any results. There are many people who think a lot but never take any action.I have met many people in large cities who were aware of happenings of Russian and Chinese economies but were not aware of the basic needs of their own families. How does it help an individual and a country if this discussion has no impact on their decisions? Unless you keep on thinking, listening, and congruently taking actions, nothing will change. For shaping your destiny you have to think, listen, and act congruently. Many people spend years in thinking and do not take any actions. Even in the corporate world many companies waste a lot of time and money on meetings but they fail to translate their efforts into reality. In one of my seminars, a very senior executive came up to me and asked, “Can you get me a job where there will be some work to do rather than just attending meetings?” Such people really want to work rather than waste time in gossiping in the name of meeting. Now the question is, who will decide what is opportunity? My father used to say that every individual gets a chance at least once to show his strengths. An opportunity is a chance unless it is converted into luck by some kind of strategy. It never happens unless we start with massive action. At times we have to eliminate something to achieve and shape our destiny. Just look at this story:

Once upon a time a very famous king told a sculptor that he wanted to see how an idol was made from stone. The sculptor started cutting stone from all sides right in front of the king. After some time the king asked him why was he  destroying  the  stone? “I  had  asked  you  to  construct an idol and not to destroy the entire piece of stone”, he said. The sculptor replied politely, “Sir, I do not make idols. A beautiful idol is hidden inside this piece of stone. I just have to eliminate
the unwanted part of the stone and subsequently the idol will emerge.”This is relevant to our lives also. We also have to weed out our negative 

thoughts to emerge as a better person. Acting without thinking does not
take us to a respectable place. We all know of Michael Jackson, once a millionaire, who died under suspicious circumstances and did not have sufficient money to even support himself during the last days of his life. His health was failing because of his crippling addiction to pain killers and alcohol. Similarly, Mike Tyson, who was once the richest boxer, has no legendary lifestyle now. Many film stars have to resort to substance
abuse just because their thinking and acting has no
congruency. Once I saw on History Channel that John
Belusi had to borrow money from his manager to buy
drugs. He was a very successful person who died at a
very early age because of drugs. I know many people
who take drugs not to enjoy the pleasure, but to avoid
pain and lose consciousness.History is not a slave of any dynasty. History is always  considered a respect for an individual. History is created by winning a battle, be it in the battlefield or in any aspect of life. A great thinker, listener, and
doer always creates history. We all know about the great leaders like Mahatma Gandhi, J. F. Kennedy,Karl Marx, Mother Teresa,
Abraham Lincoln, Maharana Pratap, etc. All these persons created history by performing great
acts. If you ever get a chance to
visit Haldi Ghati in Rajasthan, the
statues of Chetak and Maharana Pratap make it clear that history is not made just by winning the battle, history can also be created by making an honest attempt to win the battle.

MEANING OF LIFE

MEANING OF LIFE

Over the years I have developed a picture of what a human.Being living humanely is like. She is a person who understands, values, and develops her body, finding it
beautiful and useful; a person who is real and is willing to take risks, to be creative, to manifest competence, to change when the situation calls for it, and finds ways to accommodate to what is new and different, keeping that part of old that is
                                    still useful and discarding what is not.

Virginia Satir

He was travelling in his Mercedes Benz fromChandigarh to New Delhi. It was drizzling and there was a light wind blowing. The trees on both sides of the road seemed to be dancing with the wind. Just a day earlier this man had given a seminar for British Council in Taj Hotel, Chandigarh. While the car was moving, he started recalling the event in which everybody shook hands with him, considering themselves lucky and expressed their joy at meeting this man personally, whom they had only seen on television earlier. How can an average person, with a cost accounting degree, having no background in psychology make a successful mark on human psychology? How can he make every participant walk on a burning bed of fire? How can a man, who ten years ago had no money to have food, to buy clothes, who was actually fighting for survival, now help the top companies to survive in tough times? For somebody who 

YOU AND YOUR EMOTIONS

                         YOU AND YOUR 

     EMOTIONS 

           

I think two people don’t fall in love at the same time. One of them stimulates the other at one time and the other one later on. Love is the greatest emotion. Love awakens all sensory acuities—smell, touch, feel, sight, and hearing. Some people keep falling in and out of love. But let me tell you, these kind of people are very much feeling- oriented and true by heart for that moment. Generally, sex becomes the basic instinct but I personally believe sex
is only one of the part of love. I personally do not connect it with religion. When I was studying in class 12, I had read a novel which said, “It is very easy to sacrifice wealth but very difficult to sacrifice an opportunity to have sex with a female.” Yes, I feel it is correct. At that time I felt it was not true, but subsequently I realised that it was 100% true.

The feeling of love is the greatest emotion. In most of the love relationships, all kinds of emotions are found such as lust, fear, distress, delight, envy, rivalry, jealousy, compassion,
anxiety, mourning, grief, depression, fear, and shame.

Once one of my participants expressed his inner feelings. He was married, but he always wished to have sex with somebody else. Once he met a girl and was instantly
attracted to her sexually. He expressed his feelings and the girl also reciprocated. But after some time, the man realised his mistake and decided to break all his ties with that girl. But wasn’t that wrong? The girl was left hurt.
She had a feeling of being used and thrown. In this regard,
I always say what is wrong and what is right is always a
debatable point. It was very difficult to judge who was
correct and who was wrong.

Emotion is a very powerful feeling, it can create depression or ecstasy. It can give power or pain. It depends upon how you reframe the situation. Once I had gone to the northern coal fields to conduct a seminar. On the way, my driver asked me if I was interested to see the king’s palace. At the same time, he gave me a choice that I could see Lal Bahadur Shastri’s parental house instead and the river which he used to cross since he had no money to
pay for the boat. My emotion with the house and with the river was great. Lal Bahadur Shastri was a great reformer and he always provided the greatest positive context to his limitation. When he went to Tashkent after Indo-Pak war, somebody asked him how he would communicate with his tall counterpart from Pakistan.The question was asked because he was short. He replied very politely, “He will bow his head down and I will make my head up.” Therefore, it is clear that events and facts have no meaning. Rather how we perceive and how we develop and connect with our emotions has meaning.

YOU AND YOUR EMOTIONS

YOU AND YOUR
     EMOTIONS

 

Knowing Your Own Self A man’s moral worth is not measured by what his religious

beliefs are but rather by what emotional impulse he has received from nature during his lifetime.

Albert Einstein

Emotion is a state of mind. Emotions make networking of your nerve cells, subsequently it creates a power in you and you become powerful. Sometimes, in case emotions use you, then you become their victim. Use of emotions makes you tension free and it gives a sense of achievement. Even attitude is a product of emotions. We have already discussed the structure of the brain. History says that the person who has used emotions has always gone up to the top whether it is a kingdom or whether it is spiritualism. I had conducted my firewalk seminar for the northern coal fields. While on my way to Singrauli, a small town in India, I visited a famous Buddhist place, Sarnath, the place where Gautama Buddha had delivered his first speech. The emotion that he had for bringing a religion was ultimate.When I visited the museum, The Art of Great Ashoka, I was thrilled to see how Ashoka had used the emotion ofbravery when he was the King of Kalinga. Ashoka would have linked the victory of the Kalinga war to cruelty, but at that moment he changed his emotion and became the most religious person. His creations like stupas and Ashoka chakra are unbelievable. Ashoka had made both his son and daughter the disciples of Gautama Buddha. Now the question is, can we change our emotion? Yes, we 

can. The moment we change the picture of any event, sound from the event, the meaning of the event gets changed. It all depends upon the command that you and I give to your nervous system. We have to condition our brain cells
to accept that. We need to manage emotions in all the spheres of life. Whenever you find that your every business movement is correct, then you become more confident and accurate. It is nothing but the state of emotions. Many people who come to my seminar ask, “Can I enhance my sex drive?”. Ireply in a simple way, “Yes”. If your emotion is stronger and intense, your satisfaction will be higher. It is an incredible gift of emotion. I always say that the key to a healthy sex life is emotional binding. Our emotions get charged with the use of sensory acuity. The internal sound what we create and the internal feeling that we create become the trigger for our emotions.

  

Flow with the Flow

                    Flow with the Flow

Some people start at universal level and come down to a small level. Similarly, some people start at small level and reach a universal level. So, when you are talking to universal level people you should also come on a universal level and in case you are interacting with people who talk at small level then in that situation you too should talk at small level. If you do not talk at the same level, a good rapport cannot be developed. Observation and
flexibility are the key to success. In the west, the same pattern is known as a large chunk thinker and a small chunk thinker. Generally a wife starts with a small chunk and goes to a larger chunk and husband starts with a large chunk and goes to a smaller chunk. This is a normal practice followed by the couples and hence this becomes a barrier in developing a rapport.