Belief Pattern

             Belief Pattern

peace, then everything changes. A lot of rituals are performed on the fourth day and thirteenth My father used to say that Morarji Desai, former Prime Minister of India, used to drink his urine every day in the morning. This may have some scientific reason behind it, because he lived for 99 years and till the last moment he had no wrinkles on his face. It is all about belief. Belief is what makes you resourceful, powerful, and works for you and not against you.

When Edison was failing again and again in the process of inventing the bulb, he used to do a lot of reframing. In a family, if someone dies, everyone cries, but the moment we change the situation and think that the person has gone to heaven and his soul will rest in day for the person who has died and prayers are offered for his soul to rest in peace. This process conditions the people to believe that their beloved has gone to heaven.

SITUATIONAL REFRAMING

SITUATIONAL REFRAMING

In Saudi Arabia lot of oil wells were found. Of course, it made the land infertile. But if we change the context, we can see that it generated a lot of revenue or foreign currency with which Saudi Arabia could buy loads of grains which cannot be produced over there. Let’s take another reference—in the cities, cow dung is considered as a waste and, of course, everyone hates it. But in most parts of India, this is the most sacred ingredient in  religious rituals. Before cooking food, even kitchens, are cleaned with cow dung.

REFRAMING

REFRAMING

 

Changing the Context

If you don’t like the way the world is, you change it.   You have an obligation to change it. You just do it one step at a time.

Marian Wright Edelman

                                              

 He world that we see is exactly not the same as we perceive. The reality is we frame the world according to our own internal communication. What kind of frame you and I are putting around has the real meaning. If you change the frame of context, the meaning of experience changes instantly. The quality of life will depend upon the frame that we put on experience. The process of providing the frame is known as reframing. Reframing provides 

shape, size, and impact of experience. This is the reason as to why the same happening has different meaning for different individuals. Reframing makes our mind work in the desired direction. Generally, we have to give direction on two changes. One is situational change or context change and the other is content change. Through both the processes, you can resolve your internal conflicts and change your internal representation and internal
communication. One of my friends Naresh Gupta visited me for giving an invitation card for his daughter’s wedding. He had one daughter. In conversation, I said that he would feel alone after the marriage since the daughter will go away. He gave a well-balanced, reframed answer that was fantastic. He said “I am getting a son instead of losing daughter. Now I have both a son and a daughter.” I was really happy listening to such a great reframed answer.

The brain does not understand

The  brain  does  not understand

The  brain  does  not understand the difference between reality and imagination. You just imagine consistently that it will happen. If a wife doubts her husband and always imagines him with somebody else, then there is a possibility that after some time this might become reality because she had asked the cosmos for the same thing. So it all depends upon how you demand your command. Similarly, if you have a particular taste before you actually eat the thing with that taste, you start experiencing it. Once I had a presentation in Kolkata. I had taken my family along. Since I was brought up in Kolkata, I distinctly remembered a particular taste of Jaiswal puri. As soon as I landed at the airport, I took my family to the restaurant where I used to go 10 years earlier. I started matching the old taste of the puri with the present. Again, in the same trip, I had used my technique to see the pictures.

Once when I was leaving for Kolkata, Shri Amrendra Mahapatra, Director of MMTC had said, “You are young, the country needs you.” He advised me to go and give presentation to his managers. His statement was there in my mind. When I went to give the presentation there, I saw that I had
a competitor from a big, giant training company. I used my visualisation process for my presentation. How was my presentation? Just after four days, I got a call from the Director Personnel, D. Satpati, asking me to come and fix a date for giving the training at Hindustan Copper. Visualisation process is nothing but a technique to use the brain systematically. We have heard people say,
“Think positive, think positive”, but the biggest question is “How?” In my seminars my entire focus is on “how”. Our destination is always governed by the process through which we use our brain. In late 1970s, Narayana Murthy was leading a division for Patni Computers in Bombay. In 1981, one of the brothers of Patni treated Mr Narayana Murthy roughly. Narayana Murthy decided to leave Patni Computers. When he left, six other members of the company also left. Out of them, one gentleman was Mr Arora. For Mr Murthy, respect, value, process was more important The six of them formed a company by the name of Infosys. The company did not do well till the liberalisation of business in India. Mr Arora took the other side of the picture. His acuity was used in the other direction and it is needless to say that he missed the boat.

Hence we have to know how to use our own brain
in our own way, as we know that if we do not control
it ourselves, then somebody else will come forward to
control it. If you and I do not take control of our own
reins then they will be taken up by somebody else. Those
who have gone up to the top have taken control of their
lives after having faced all kinds of challenges.

Reprogramming the Brain

                                   Reprogramming the Brain  

The use of brain entirely depends upon an individual. If you change the picture, if you change the sound, if you change the feeling, then the meaning and context of an
event will be changed. Now the question is, can we reprogramme our brain? Yes, we can. We can, by disturbing the current patterns and subsequently replacing the old pattern with the new one. The brain does not understand the difference between the reality and imagination. A person who masturbates experiences the same physiological changes as what is experienced in an actual sexual intercourse. In one of my seminars, one gentleman came into my hotel room. It was 12 o’clock in the night. He said, “Please save me. I enjoy masturbation more than the real intercourse.” Look, imagined reality is more powerful than reality itself. It is all about how we use our brain.

In case anybody does this in an intense state, then the imagined behaviour will replace the real behaviour. Remember, if you tell your child that he is doing well in
his studies, the child starts doing well and if you keep
encouraging your child like this consistently, then he
starts doing extremely well in his studies. In case parents
start telling the child that he is not doing well repeatedly
so as to scare the child, then in reality the parents do
not notice but the child starts imagining that he is not
doing well and hence imagination replaces the reality. Let
me give you and example. Once I finished my firewalk
seminar at 12 o’clock in the night. When I entered my
hotel suite in resort Chokhi Dhani at Jaipur, I saw a
participant waiting for me. She was crying. I asked her
the reason for crying. She explained, “Everything is all
right, but I cannot have sex with my husband.” They
had been married for a year. They tried having sex many
times but they could not do it. I suddenly recalled the
case study of Milton Ericsson, in which the female was
scared of sex. The reason of the fear was that when she
was eight year old, somebody from the family had raped
her. That pain was anchored in her mind, body, and soul.
Subsequently, she developed a phobia. That phobia was
creating problem in imagination and that imagination
had become reality. My counselling worked like magic
on her. Remember, past is not the same as the future.
That participant was imagining pain. If you do anything
consistently, even in imagination, then it starts looking as
reality. It is all in the mind. Mind always gives you what
you dream of. In order to activate your mind, choose
affirmative words. 

Central Brain

Central Brain

Cerebrum

Cerebrum

This is the supercomputer. The meaning of command depends upon the past experience, past patterns, value system, and perceptions that the individual has. Our cerebrum is divided into two parts—right and left. The right part constructs. Here construct means it thinks
about something which does not exist. It takes the image in imagination. We have discussed the use of this in the chapter “Catch the liars”. The second part is known as left brain. Authentically, the right brain creates and the left manages what the right has created. When the left brain digs up, then the right manages the situation. In case balance is not created between the left and the right brain, then that invites depression. There is no medicine for depression. The only medicine that doctors prescribe functions to augment and make a balance between the left and right brain. Our supercomputer has about 20,000 chips, but generally we use only 10% of the total. Yes, Albert Einstein could use 15% of the total usable chips.