CATCH THE LIARS

Scientific use of Eye Movements Deceived again? Is every thing a sham, a put on? 

                                              Can anyone be trusted?

                                            

   Anonymous

As I have mentioned earlier, our incredible human machine has two types of muscles—voluntary muscles and non-voluntary muscles. While communicating, if we notice and observe the non-voluntary muscles carefully, then we can find out whether a person is lying or not.
Non-voluntary muscles are those muscles which we cannot move as per our desires and commands. These have their own patterns as they are controlled by the nervous system. Our brain moves these muscles according to a preset program me installed by the Almighty. This cannot be changed knowingly to deceive any individual. These muscles have a set pattern and behave according to that. These muscles are found in eye pupils or eye balls or eyelids and heart beat, etc.

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Right hand thumb

                                               

Now concentrate on the thumb of your right hand and put comparative questions to yourself. Whenever you feel that God has been unkind
to you, then put it on right and immediately raise the left thumb and ask with intensity, “In comparison to whom?” Hopefully you will get an answer. In our life, at least once, every individual thinks that God is very much unkind to
him or her. Whenever items like too much, too many, or too expensive come, then always ask, in comparison to whom or in comparison to what. You may have heard the story that when somebody was complaining about shoes,
he found that the other person did not have legs. By using the de-anchoring technique we can delete our false and painful assumptions, we can take some of the following common comparing beliefs which create limitations and
constraints. By asking some basic questions we can create empowering belief.

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Right hand index finger—

             

Now concentrate on the index finger and try to understand all generalizations that you make about groups and society. You should always ask in a specific manner. Never blame the entire group. Choose one which is responsible
for that. Whenever any question comes that they do not understand, then immediately ask, “Who among them?” If you feel that they are not going to give you a fair chance, then ask yourself who is not going to give you the fair chance. Exactly who the person is, who specifically are they? Again, if you see that your idea cannot work, then immediately ask which one of your ideas may not work. Again, if you hear that your plans cannot be executed, then ask a simple question, “Which plan is not working?” In my seminars I come across people who say that their family members do not understand them at all. I suggest to them to ask simple questions as to who among their family does not understand them.The bottom line is that you should not enhance your

problem. Look at the problem specifically and stay focused.

                            

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Right hand middle finger—

                                                     

Now let us move the middle finger of the right hand. Whenever you tell yourself to do something then ask yourself, “When? How? Where?” This will provide you direction, pace, extent, and destination. Brain does not understand unless we make a specific command. Unless it is clear, brain will not consider it. So whenever you feel depressed, ask yourself why you feel depressed. In my seminars, especially in BPOs, I always ask, “How do you get depressed?” The answer I get is, “Pressure”. I simply ask, “Have you seen the life of a student of class 3 or 4? They too have a lot of pressure, such as peer pressure, pressure of the teachers, parents expectations, etc. Then they have fear of not performing, fear of rejection from siblings, fear of being insulted in the society by the teachers, parents, and friends. They have to manage so many things and so many persons at the 

same time. It is all about how you limit yourself. It is how you create avenues for yourself to be depressed. In BPOs especially, “stressed up” has become a fancy word. People love to be called “stressed up”. Once I was conducting a seminar for Tech Mahindra company and it was a challenge to convince very senior level people that all stress in our lives is the result of our false assumptions. We have developed the culture of stress. In this situation, just ask yourself how you have become stressed up. You will find a particular pattern in your behaviour like shoulder down, eyes down, etc. Again if you ask yourself that you want to take a new project, then immediately ask, “How? When? Where?” This will provoke you to take massive actions for your project which will enhance your thinking and provide an opportunity to excel. Mere thinking and dreaming cannot shape your destiny and cannot do anything for you. Success is always buried next to frustration. The fire resembles the problem: the problem which might kill persons, the problem which can physically harm. If you want to improve your designation, visualise that you have attained that designation by taking your eye in the right direction.

Right hand ring finger—Now let us concentrate on the ring finger of the

right hand, 100% denied. If anybody denies 100%, then do not ask why, as

even a thief or a criminal or any antisocial element has a 100% valid reason for

doing a crime. Even in hypnosis, we never ask the question “Why?” We

always ask them what will be the result in case you do not take that action. I

ask in my seminars what will happen if you do not love your wife. Of

course I get theanswer, “If I do not love my wife then somebody else will do

so.”In case you are not willing to work, then ask yourself what will be the result if

you do not work. The picture of the consequences will force you to work, or the

picture of the result will force you to take a decision. Again, needless to say, this will

prepare you to face the result.

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FILTER YOUR FILTERS

COMMUNICATION (THROUGH HAND )

Right hand little finger—

Let us position 100% irrelevant facts on the little finger of the right hand. These are those facts 

that do not exist in reality, but we have accepted them as a matter of fact and our life is governed 

by them. It means we are governed by our self created world of limitations and constraints. These 

limitations stop us from moving forward and, furthermore, sabotage our success. Now whenever a 

situation comes, then concentrate it on the little finger of your left hand. If your perception is not 

filtered properly, then it will not allow you to move forward, rather it will create an avenue to 

move away. Unless we stop generalising, deleting, and distorting the meaning of an event, any 

happening won’t be providing a new possibility.

                                                                                                                 

You can refer to the following-

100% bluff—Sometimes we say that kids today have no manners. By making this statement, we create an emotion which is negative. With the sound of this statement, our physiology goes down. Our behaviour gets affected. At this moment, ask yourself by raising little finger of left hand—is it really 100%? An answer from your subconscious will come, i.e., “No”. It is not 100%, rather we have made it 100% as a result of our own perceptions.Suppose you are moving in your car and suddenly a rickshaw puller comes in front. Within a fraction of moment you exclaim, “You all Biharis have no sense.” Again you say, “Oh Bihari get lost.” Here you are creating an identity about the people of Bihar. You are creating a bluff as if every person from Bihar is a rickshaw puller. It is not at all the reality. Do you think it is reality? No. Now next time, in case event. Map is not the territory. Even behaviour of a single person changes with the passage of time. As we know there is an old saying “time and tide changes every moment”.Similarly, you may believe that all secretaries have affairs with their bosses or seniors. So whichever office you go to, you will assume that there also secretaries and their bosses are having affairs. You will start matching their relationship wherever you go. You will focus on their age, on their looks and so on. You will forget your basic job for which you went there. Your attention will be diverted
to some other direction which is, of course, not relevant to you.you go to meet an IAS officer and you find he is from Bihar, it is needless to say that you will not be able to develop a positive rapport with him. Poor image about Biharis will not allow youto be natural and your communication process will be incomplete. Now concentrate on the little finger of your left hand and ask yourself, “Are all Biharis rickshaw pullers?” You will get the answer from your subconscious mind. “No. This is not the reality.” Remember, every event is a single Again, many women say, “All men are bastard.” In my seminar, I asked a girl what her idea about her father was. She could not say anything. At this point of time, you ask the little finger of your left hand is it really 100% true, you will get the answer, “No”. In fact, you are making a lie or simply perception to 100% truth. And you will
notice that your emotions are not in control.You suffer from pain, and you make your assumptions in poor state, because of your own belief system. I can
bet it never exists in reality. If you make full truth from half truth or no truth, you start believing your doubt and doubting your belief. This kills your way of life and shapes your behaviour that stops you from taking actions. Again, some bosses say that their subordinates never work. They should ask themselves, “Really?” The answer of this question will be “No.” By doing this, they will feel ecstatic. And they will realise that not all subordinates are lazy, rather most of them work hard and are responsible for making them the boss. Most people say that all politicians
are useless. Remember this will not allow you to grow and respect your country. I found in India that most people hate politicians but they always talk about politics.We know about the behaviour of a person in a particular context and we judge him from that instance. Remember, a person’s behaviour is contextual and it changes as the context changes.

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FILTER YOUR FILTERS

Redesign Your Internal Language, Experiences, Perceptions, Beliefs, Values, and Attitudes

Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.

Barack Obama

Once I did a seminar for the family of an industrialist at Hotel Galaxy, Gurgaon. After the seminar, I shared my observations regarding their employees. I said that there was a lot of respect in the eyes of every family
member for the people working for them. The Chairman
of the company replied immediately, “If you want to
grow, you have to give respect.” This is the secret of their
success.

Many a times our self condemnation stops us from taking actions. Sometimes our technique of asking questions creates hindrances in our life. We all know that the quality of life is nothing but the quality of questions that we ask to ourselves and others. The message of communication should teach us how to communicate with others. If you and I want to communicate internally with a positive frame of mind, then we must know the technique of filtering our negative perceptions. Then only can we communicate with ourselves. We know that we need to communicate with ourselves first and then we communicate with the world

 

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